Grief and Loss

A Better Understanding of Our Grief

My first book signing at Bank Square Books in Mystic, CT was both exciting and rewarding.  I spoke with many of my friends who stopped by to wish me luck; and I also met many new people who readily acknowledged, some for the first time in their life, that they had shared similar experiences to mine when it came to supernatural visitations after a loved one’s death.

Some people were unfamiliar with my book, but were interested to discuss the hypothesis of my story; while others had heard my interview on the Stu Bryer Show @ WICH Radio Station (a podcast of the interview can be accessed by clicking on the tab “New and Events” on this website), and came to meet me and buy a copy of my book.

The fact that I candidly described my own experiences seemed to encourage other survivors to open up and discuss a subject that appeared to be too outlandish for them to previously admit to, for fear of ridicule; or, maybe because they thought people would not believe their story.  It was interesting to listen to independent descriptions of spiritual visitation, other than my own, by a multitude of woman who seemed happy to finally be able to acknowledge that they shared similar experiences to the ones that I described in my book.

Although some of these stories were very similar to mine, it still amazed me how open and eager each individual was to talk about the subject of life after death; especially, since they knew I would understand.

Feedback from my book has been mostly positive, except for the occasional mention of the fact that my story is sad.  Of course that is to be expected, since it is impossible to understand my message unless the reader can comprehend the pain I endured as a result of my loss.  I found it extremely interesting to hear that many survivors who read my book stipulated that I so accurately described their individual experiences that they felt as though they could have written my book as a portrayal of their own encounters with grief.

On the other hand, a reader may also want to better understand the reason it takes so long for someone they know to recover from the effects of grief.  Therefore, understanding my journey may help them relate to the experiences their own family member, or friend, might be undergoing as a result of the death of a loved one.

Sometimes it is hard to be compassionate for those who grieve, if the grief others encounter does not fit into the shorter time frame onlookers may deem to be more appropriate.  Unfortunately, until a person finds the suitable antidote to help them heal their grief will fester until they do, for there is no quick or easy fix.  But, if a survivor want to ever be able to enjoy life again, it is up to the individual to find a way to develop new activities, or in some circumstances new relationships, to fill the void of their loss.

That is not to say we are supposed to forget our former life; instead, we should cherish our wonderful memories.  At the same time, we should strive to live the remainder of our life as an independent individual in search of a purpose . . remembering that maybe in order to reach our full potential in life, we sometime have to walk our path alone.




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